Real Talk

  1. Kiss Me Bestie – ***The Mic***

You know those common cliché phrases of we’re just friends, they are the most overrated typa friendships, but not more than these people parading themselves as best friends. I once asked a friend if he’d date his girl best friend. The kind of look I got was enough to tell me, some things can never be acknowledged, even if it was happening inside your own gut, you’ll probably go ahead and be like calm down, feeling, you’re not allowed to suffice in this life. I’m talking about the kind of rapport you create with your best friend, most of you will say it’s family-like. Let me ask, do you see your best friend as your sister really? Or you ever hugged her and felt butterflies take off from your tummy straight to your head. You once saw her half naked and thought to yourself, she’s an angel. I had to use that holy angelic ki-line so you wouldn’t think the worst of yourself, for thinking that dirty of the person you force yourself to see like a sister.

Do you all have these two friends, who everyone thinks they’re a thing, they act like newly-weds that never get over their honeymoon, yet they still deny that chemistry or physics whatever between them? We all have a close friend, whom we’d share the craziest of things with. That person you’ll tell them of how you ate a weird meal during lunch (probably mbosho and mchele or chapo madondo) then went ahead for that lecture at 2pm, sat in front of that chic you usually have some crush-like sort of thing and your stomach kept rumbling, wild like it was roaming in the jungle. All she does, that ka-friend of yours will burst out laughing (they usually have really bad laughter, or they laugh their worst when they’re around you) and both of you will make fun of the whole ordeal. You will go ahead to gossip with her, talk about how your other friends are so dumb for thinking you are dating. Those friends are the most priceless I agree, they are the gems you could ever have as human beings. The whole friendship idea changes when you go overboard, when you start overdoing your “bestfriendship” and we out here are unable to can, unable to see otherwise. Or we’ll say, mnatubeba ufala.

Let me ask for the second time, would you date your bestie? I’m talking about the opposite sex remember. Let me guess, you’re denying it, with all your might, mind, soul and strength. But why exactly wouldn’t you, because you made a pact? That would be the dumbest of reasons, more so if it is the one keeping you from thinking of it as a probability. I’ve seen my “couple” friends walk from Boma to the resource main gate here in Kimathi, holding hands, OMG they were so cute I swear that day I cursed the day they met and chose to be just best friends.

Have you once thought how it would be like if you actually married your best friend? How you will never have to start learning them, you know they can act like a twelve year old when they’re twenty. You know you can hide the tissue then she goes to the toilet and all she’ll do is scream so hard and do nothing. You understand his feet smell at times when he wears certain shoes (or his just smells all the time). You actually know he can’t eat a snack like chipo and sleep (even if it were a whole gunia of waru) and you’ll know better (prolly cook ugali). A friend once told me, nothing feels better than dating or marrying someone who’s been your friend for sometime. Now can you just stop and think how that’d be like if you dated that nigga you call when you have extra storo bonus just to chokoza him and tell him, kwani sifai kukusalimia, when literally you couldn’t think of someone else. I still think that kind of relation is the one we need to mend all these screwed up relationships

One last time, would you date your best friend? If you gave me reason enough, well and good. But if you still think he is adorable, cute, and even get jealous when he spends more time with another girl other than you, you can’t argue with me.

2. Addict? – ***Rein***

I was listening to these songs by *Luke Combs* called *Reasons* and *Beer Never broke my heart.* I started to think about how and why people do what they do. Actually they got their reasons like you got your reasons too.

This is another controversial issue that many disagree with, some are even quick to give the “Addict” title without trying to understand what this single word holds. True if you ask 10 people “What does a person have to do to be called an addict?” They’ll each give you their own criteria.

The smart ones will see it from all perspective but for most of us our brain automatically goes to drugs & alcohol. Why?

As we grew up our families told us terrible things and warned us not to be like them. We were afraid to even talk to them because they might make us one of them…Well at least I was🤷🏽‍♂️

Then as we grow up we started noticing how cruel and unfair this so called paradise is. So to some extent we started to understand where this addiction might come from.

But if you think bout it, aren’t we all addicts? The dictionary describes the word “Addict” as ”a person who cannot stop doing or using something.” Based on this, isn’t there something in your daily routine that you have to do or use?

You might disagree but really try to be open minded…if you told a drug addict to stop using drugs he might not do it. Then again apply this experiment to your self: What if you tell your self to stop listening to music? Or to stop watching a movie? Would you do it??? My guess is no so how are you different?

Again you might disagree by saying they are harming them-selves, they are putting them-selves in danger. But what if the pain that made them start to use drugs in the 1st place was even worse? That means they are healing themselves in a way right? As we all use the music, art and movies to be in a better mood or to pass the time. 

To some extent Love can also be addictive I think that’s why that break ups are hard. It might be so painful that you need something to NUMB it or even worse – it’s like quitting a drug…

BTW We should all be supportive and understanding not judgmental and close minded. When you think about it, we are out here complaining about how broken and how much pain we’re in but they need these substances to numb their pain away…

It’s better to put things to perspective guys


3. Teens at love…Really??? – ***Rein***

The real kind of love is giving your self to the other in hopes that they will do the same. It’s like you start to care for them more than yourself and they will do the same in return.

See the realest form of love in this world is the love of a mother. From the day she gave birth to you she stops caring for her self and she will care and nurture her child…
Nowadays all this talk about heartbreak and how you never gonna trust a person with your heart is bull shit because in that case you gonna be on your own for the rest of your life.

Have you thought about that? Well if you say you’re ok with being all alone by your self for the rest of your life then perhaps this is not for you.

But if you think that maybe you’re over reacting stop exaggerating things and make smart choices in your r/ship life. Personally I don’t think that we should get our hearts involved at this young age, true we grew up seeing those picture perfect high school sweethearts in movies and we all wish we had one of those love stories but here on planet earth that’s a one in a million chance, and if you end up getting hurt at this age you are going to develop a trust issue and that’s gonna mess up your future r/ships so it’s better not to involve heart without being 100% confident about the relationship.

We may need that company because let’s be honest here we’re teens and it’s a need. At least it is for me… I speak from my own perspective here so you’re welcome to correct me if am wrong…

I don’t wanna call the simple attraction I come across as “love” and be the one who gets hurt. In the end, let’s prioritize – that is all am trying to say …

We should get the love we deserve and trust me when that comes we shouldn’t worry about getting hurt. To quote The Bible, there is a part where it says “love never fails. So if it fails just know that it wasn’t love” so when ever you break up or lose the one you cared about remember this quote and know that individual wasn’t made for you…

Now all I ask is my fellow teens have you been in love?


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