The gist of today’s article is to address the mystery behind the female so-called ‘G-Spot’ as well as a few stereotypes regarding female orgasms.
I will not simply assume that everyone practically understands what the g-spot is, nor will I assume that those of us who have an idea know all that there is to know in regard to the G-Spot.
The G-Spot, also called the Grafenberg spot (Named after the German gynecologist Ernst Grafenberg) is characterized as an erogenous area of the vagina that, when stimulated, is capable of sexual arousal, powerful orgasms and potential female ejaculation. It is a sensitive area as a result of a high innervation by nerve endings.
It is a dime to quarter- sized spot in the lower third of the anterior vaginal wall, (2-3 inches up), just past the pubic bone. Since this is not a biology class, I’m only obliged to give as much on the literal aspects of the G- spot!!!
Is the G- spot the clitoris?
It is quite common for many people to mistake the clitoris for the G- spot, of which it isn’t. Rather, the G- spot is part of the clitoral network. This means that when you’re stimulating the G- spot, you’re actually stimulating part of the clitoris, which is much larger than we are led to believe. Truth be told, it is an area of controversy, even to me.
Here is something interesting: powerful orgasms are capable of leading to intense muscle contractions that lead to the expulsion of fluid – sometimes up to 4 ounces. However, it is good to note that this does not necessarily happen to all women, which is by all means not abnormal.
Another interesting fact is that the G-spot swells slightly during arousal and feels raised or bumpy. Funny enough, some women like it to be stimulated while others simply don’t. Please don’t ask me about the reasons for this, because when it came to my research, I too hit a dead end. I have an idea- if you’re curious, ask a woman you trust.
How does an orgasm for a woman feel like?
I managed to talk to a few ladies and based on their explanations, I was able to paraphrase it into something all of us can fathom.
“It’s similar”, I quote, “to your body falling off a cliff into a pile of tingling ecstasy. It’s a sense of sensual relief that you find yourself having no control over, and you let yourself go because it’s just too damn good. In a nutshell, an earth – shattering female orgasm is one of a kind.” Satisfied? Maybe.
How do you tell that she is faking an orgasm?
According to a research conducted by the university of Pennsylvania, one- third to two – thirds of women say that they have faked an orgasm at least once. But why fake it? Based on my experiences (don’t judge me, because you are probably worse), here are a few ways you can know she is faking the orgasm.
For starters, if she ‘comes’ immediately after you ask her to, she is definitely faking it. Two, orgasms are usually accompanied by numerous muscle contractions. If you don’t feel these, just know that she is utterly acting. Finally, if she says that her orgasm with you is different with those she ever experienced before, she is lying because one person cannot have different experiences of their own orgasm.
Why fake it?
There are many reasons why women fake orgasms, but here are the most common ones: To boost the man’s ego and avoid hurting their feelings, to avoid sharing accusations of inadequacy, for non – sexual gains such as being the man’s official girlfriend and sometimes, to end the sex! Brutal, Right?
Is it normal for a girl to never ‘come’?
It is not uncommon for a woman to never have experienced an orgasm during sexual activity. It is common for women not to have orgasms. It’s also quite natural for a woman to have experienced orgasms many times before, only to go through periods of time where orgasms are less frequent or absent.
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